The emotional aspects of infertility

In this latest blog, we delve into both the emotional and scientific dimensions of infertility and explore the profound impact of fertility challenges and share some self-care tips.

When we talk about IVF, it’s often the science that gets the spotlight (and rightly so because it’s pretty amazing!). This week during World IVF Day, we also wanted to shine a light on the emotional aspects to recognise the importance of how this science impacts the lives of millions around the world.

The diagnosis of infertility can be a deeply personal and emotional experience, often bringing a wave of anxiety, depression, and grief. Many describe it as an "emotional rollercoaster," where hope and disappointment alternate with each treatment cycle, stirring emotions before, during, and after each stage.

In this blog we're sharing insights into the emotional journey of infertility and highlighted why continuous scientific advancements, such as those pioneered by Genea over the last four decades, are so important. We also share some self-care tips for good measure!

In recent years, many are starting families later in life, contributing to a notable decline in fertility that affects about 15% of the global population and increasing the demand for assisted reproductive techniques. In Australia, 1 in 6 couples faces infertility at some point.

The emotional landscape varies greatly among patients, influenced by factors such as gender, age, the length of time trying to conceive, and any previous pregnancy losses. Common feelings include guilt, anger, irritability, disappointment, isolation, and a lack of control.

Women often feel a deep sense of guilt, viewing reproductive challenges as a personal failing, which can hurt their self-esteem. Men, on the other hand, may talk less about their feelings, focusing instead on supporting their partners, which can sometimes lead to feelings of isolation and conflict.

For single women, the journey can feel particularly daunting, especially when treatment with sperm donation doesn’t lead to quick success. They may grapple with concerns about raising a child without a father figure and feel societal pressure to conform to conventional family norms.

Cultural and religious beliefs also weigh heavily, with many experiencing intense shame due to the stigma surrounding infertility. Social norms about conception can create a sense of isolation, making it hard for individuals to share their struggles.

The feeling of helplessness can be overwhelming, fostering the belief that doing everything "right" should lead to pregnancy. This can exacerbate feelings of guilt and failure, making patients more susceptible to the pressures of social media and other influences. Online forums and groups can provide a sense of community but also risk fostering unrealistic expectations and unnecessary anxiety.

So, what can we do to lighten the psychological load?

1. Acknowledge the commonality: Remember, infertility affects many people worldwide; you are not alone.

2. Recognise the impact: Accept that reproductive challenges bring significant emotional distress, and it’s okay to feel anxious or stressed.

3. Appreciate your efforts: Know that you’re doing your best. While not everything is within our control, making informed decisions can help restore your well-being.

4. Seek support: Reach out to someone you trust. If you prefer privacy, online resources can also provide support.

5. Communicate with your partner (if partnered): Keep communication open and nurture your relationship. Find tools to navigate this journey together.

6. Consider professional help: Seek professional support if emotional distress disrupts your life, if periods of grief persist, or if finding other life projects becomes difficult. Sometimes, just talking to someone who understands can make a big difference.

7. Be kind to yourself: Practice self-compassion and patience, knowing you’re doing everything possible to reach your goal.

By taking these steps, you can help ease the emotional weight on your shoulders and face the challenges of infertility with greater resilience and support.

At FertilitySA, our fertility counsellors play a crucial role in our patients' IVF and fertility journeys. We encourage you to reach out if you feel you need support.